Sorry Kids, Mama’s Got a Hot Date with her Novel

Sorry Kids, Mama’s Got a Hot Date with her Novel

One of the hardest things I have to keep re-learning in life is that to get anything done you have to be intentional about it.  Things don’t just happen.  If I want to spend more time with my husband – I have to be intentional about setting up date nights.  If I want to have more money in my bank account I have to be intentional about budgeting each month.  And if I want to write a book, I have to be intentional about my writing.

Sigh…that all sounds like a lot of work.  

Sometimes goals that seem difficult can have simple solutions.  To spend more time with my husband I took my 2017 kitten a day calendar (I know awesome right) and I systematically scheduled one date night a month before anything else could vie for my time.  My husband is numero uno in my life so why not make him numero uno on my calendar.  

If only scheduling my writing time was that easy.

The problem with writing is before you are published, and sometimes even after, your writing doesn’t hold a value that is easy to define.  Right now, my writing does not bring income into our household, does not get shared with many (if any) people, cannot be given as a gift, and is over all not necessary to the general day to day function of my life.  All it really does is make me happy – which is awesome – but lots of other things also make me happy so…oops it’s been three days and I haven’t thought about writing.

Thankfully, I do not have to justify the time I spend writing to anybody but myself.  I am surrounded by amazing people who believe in me (probably more than I believe in myself) and help me to seek out my writing goals.

Despite that awesome advantage – often times I still struggle to justify my writing time to myself.  Oh, it’d be great to write today, but Lizzy is coming over at 6:00 and we usually eat around 5:15 and I have to walk the dog so I’ll only have like ten minutes and I’ll just write tomorrow because my story will still be there, Lizzy doesn’t come over every day.  Tomorrow I’m volunteering and that’s going to eat up most of my night, when I get home I could write, but I know I’ll be too worn out and I’ll choose watching television or maybe reading.  Wednesday looks promising but after being busy two nights in a row the house will be a disaster and it’ll stress me out too much to find my writing zen and then it’s suddenly Saturday and I haven’t written a single word all week.

The thought is always there – but with making time for writing the thought just isn’t enough.  I can’t only intend to spend time writing every day (or most days) I need to plan my day around my writing time.  

This sounds a little hard core.  Sorry mom, I can’t talk to you right now because I’m writing, I’ll call back later.  Kids make your own pb&J’s tonight because mama’s gotta hot date with her novel.  Thanks for understanding that the house is a mess Lizzy, I was focusing on writing instead of cleaning.

It feels strange, saying no to people – saying no to things that you enjoy to do your writing.  After all, your writing will always be there, but you only get so many opportunities to go out for lattes with Lizzy.  

That’s sort of the problem though – unless you get your butt in gear and finish your story your writing will ALWAYS be there.  You won’t ever finish because you keep putting other things that feel more important, more urgent or more fun ahead of it.

If you want to publish your book nothing is more important than your writing time.  It is sacred, it is holy, it is the only thing standing between a rough draft and a finished novel.  As much as I wish little writing elves would come and work on my book every night, that doesn’t happen.  I need to write it, revise it, edit it finish it.  And all that takes time.  Like a lot of time.

It takes so much time that it feels overwhelming, impossible even.  But you can do it, because if you remember my last post your writing only needs 3 things: To make sense, be complete and have something that’s special.  To get those three things you need to be intentional about creating space for your writing.  So here’s some tips to help you do that.

  1. Do it early:  I prefer to write around 7-8 at night, but that’s a terrible scheduling choice.  It’s easy for one little thing to take more time than I think and then bam it’s 9:00 and I haven’t written yet and I’ll decide to go to bed instead of write.  If I write earlier, like 5-6 before I start doing other things with my night I get it done!
  2. Schedule it: If you keep a day planner, block out your writing time.  If you like writing fewer days but bigger chunks put that time on your calendar, reserve it, be intentional about refusing to make plans during that time.  It will feel strange at first, telling your friends you can’t do something because of your “hobby” or calling a babysitter for your kids so you can stay home and write, but you’ll be so glad you made those choices once you have a published book on your hands
  3. Remind yourself why you write: If you are a writer then you need to write, you can’t deny the urge forever, put up frequent reminders everywhere that tell you why your story is more important than the new season of Project Runway Junior (But OMG have you watched it though?!?!)
  4. Don’t overschedule yourself:  the end of 2016 was really crazy for my, I overscheduled myself and was running on fumes for far too long.  Even though I wanted to write, I did not have the energy because the rest of my life was wearing me out.  To write well we need to be well first.  Make sure you are giving yourself time to relax along with write.  One thing I’m doing (which who knows if it will work) is reserving one weekend a month as off limits for making social plans.  This will give me a chance to have 2 days to reset my life and get back on track with things so I have the mental strength to write.
  5. Check out my next blog post:  This tip will be your biggest battle against procrastination, and slacking on intentionality about your writing time, but it needs a whole post to explain so you’ll have to be on the lookout for it in a few weeks (mwahahahaha – but trust me it’s worth it).

With the start of a new year (you know like two months ago) I love the opportunity to pause, and reset my priorities in life.  If writing is one of yours you owe it to yourself to start being intentional (or keep being intentional) with your writing time.  It’s going to take a lot of hours, some tears, some long days, some long nights and a whole lot of imagination but I fully believe that we will all get there!
Stay Amazing My Friends,

2 thoughts on “Sorry Kids, Mama’s Got a Hot Date with her Novel

  1. Keep on writing Brooke, I know it is hard to focus when there are so many other fun things to do. But that is the way life is. The things that we really want to do we have to schedule them and make them happen. Even house work and paying the bills. It is exciting to think my granddaughter wants to be a writer!!! your great grandma would have loved that.
    I won’t be at your thing this weekend but have a good time. Love you Grandma.

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